We believe a vital part of therapy is the idea of grief and loss. Your ability to accept things the way they are can be hugely affected by the way you have dealt with loss in your life. In order to create a new future, sometimes that requires mourning the loss of some aspect of yourself. If therapy is something you are considering, then chances are you have had many struggles in your life and something you resorted to for survival may not be the best coping skill of today. However, letting go of that coping skill can be a painful loss of yourself. For example, if you found validation in sexual experiences and clung to some aspect of relationships throughout your life, then letting go of receiving that validation can be painful. You will need to grieve the loss of that part of you.
Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1969) developed the grief process model. She categorizes them as the stages of grief:
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. (Stages may be repeated and in different order.
Through grief and loss work, we can help you redefine yourself and create a new you. However, we must pay careful attention to the behaviors that you may be consciously or subconsciously clinging to.